I Married Young—I Won’t Regret It

I see the laughter dancing in your eyes. I hear the condescension in your tone.

I told you my husband and I fell in love with each other at 17 and we’ve been together ever since.

It’s never a bright smile and “Oh, congratulations! How did you two meet?” when I tell someone I’m married, but wide eyes, and a tight smile asking “How old are you?”

It used to bother me. But now I get it.

I fell in love young, and when I say that to you, you might hear “My life is over. The fun is over. The party is over.”

Or maybe you sit there silently as you mull over my declaration and think to yourself “Young love never lasts.”

Maybe it stresses you out. “Isn’t she still in college? How the Hell is she going to finish that now?”

Or Hell, maybe you’re the person sitting there, right now, rolling your eyes while you’re reading this. “She’s so naïve,” you think to yourself as you sit there bitterly sipping your wine consumed with false superiority.

Which ever category you fall under, I want you to understand something. I may have met my husband as a teenager, but we’ll still love each other when we’re old and grey.

People have this false notion about falling in love and getting married. It’s ridiculous really, but people seem to think that when I settled down, my life stopped. They assumed I couldn’t drink anymore, go out anymore, travel anymore, and some people even thought that meant any of the goals I had set for myself were over if I hadn’t accomplished them before my wedding day, or they at least thought it made all of that stuff so much harder.

Prepare yourself for shock and surprise folks, but having my husband, made my life easier.

Settling down with the love of your life young isn’t ending the party. It’s throwing an even bigger party with your best friend that never stops even after you go home.

Also, side note, sometimes my husband doesn’t come with me, because even though I’m an old married lady now, I still need time with only the girls. And guess what, guys? Free designated driver.

I still want to travel. I want to go to beautiful places, and I want to experience adventures. I just want my best friend there with me.

My husband doesn’t stop my dreams. He helps me dream bigger.

He doesn’t slow down my progress and make it harder to accomplish my goals. He pushes me, he encourages me, and most importantly, he inspires me. And I do the same for him.

He’s my best friend. He’s the love of my life. He’s my soulmate. I want do everything with him as we conquer the world, equally as much as I want to do nothing with him as we sit at home.

True love doesn’t end your life. It enhances it. It makes happy times, happier. It makes adventures, more adventurous. It makes doing absolutely nothing feel like something beautiful. It supplies light in times of darkness, and clarity in times of hopelessness.

So you see, my life didn’t end when I fell in love. It began.

36 thoughts on “I Married Young—I Won’t Regret It

  1. Oh my gosh, this was so beautiful to read! And I absolutely agree: life doesn’t end at marriage. Society as a whole has such a skewed viewpoint of marriage and a woman’s role in it. I wish you happiness and love to last a lifetime 🙂

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  2. Yes yes yes! I particularly love this bit:

    Settling down with the love of your life young isn’t ending the party. It’s throwing an even bigger party with your best friend that never stops even after you go home.

    I also met my husband at 20 and married him at 23, and at 29 I still get the shocked faces when people learn I’m married (maybe I look younger?). There seems to be a huge disconnect between my overwhelmingly positive experience of it, and people’s idea of what marriage is like, or even what it’s for.

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    1. Thank you so much 😊 but yes I agree!! I’ve heard so many people say “I’m not getting married until I’m 30” and like that’s totally fine, everyone is different. But so many people shame women for getting married young now. When age really doesn’t matter! As long as you have gotten through rough times, and come out strong and ultimately have a mutual love and respect for each other, I don’t see why you wouldn’t marry.

      Wishing you and your husband lots of love and happiness!!

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  3. Such a lovely article ! I had the same issue and almost felt I shouldn’t say I was married because it was shocking people and it annoyed me to answer their stupid questions. But now I don’t care, we love our life, we have our own friends, our own hobbies and we do a lot of things together but also a lot of things on our own 🙂

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  4. Love this read so much! I definitely wasn’t as young as you, but I was 23 when I got engaged and even then I got the side eye of ‘aren’t you a little young to be settling down?’ I’ve had friends who don’t want to get married to their long term boyfriends until they are close to 30. Because there’s still so much they want to do with their lives. I always think…how does being married stop you from doing all things you are currently doing now or stop you from everything you hope to do?

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    1. Thank you! Exactly how I feel!! I feel like if getting married stops you from doing the stuff you wanna do then you must be with the wrong person, because if you’re with the right person, they’ll support you and even try to do the things you love and want to do with you!

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  5. I love this post about marriage. When I met my love I was 22 and after that my life became more enjoyable I laughed more smiled more I became more positive. Being married is a life long wonderful exciting journey. I been married for 6 years and I love my husband more today then ever. My life has just became more exciting with our three beautiful children. My life as a married women and a mom of three has just begun.

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  6. Whenever things don’t go according to status quo, it’s hard for many to swallow. Hard for them to understand becuase the world tell she them that another way is better and more acceptable….
    Congratulations on your love and marriage and many years of light to you both! 🙂

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  7. I completely agree with you. I met my now boyfriend when I was 17, and the only reason we aren’t married now is because both our families don’t agree on getting married at such a young age, before we’ve even settled, have our own income and steady jobs. But, I know we’ll be together till the day comes that we call each other husband and wife, in reality I feel like we’re already married anyway.

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    1. Thank you for reading!!
      Yes that’s awesome!!! Me and my boyfriend were together for over 5 years before we married and had known each other for 9. And everyone we knew who was married was so snobby haha. Like “oh… being married is so different. You’ll see one day” well we’re married now and literally nothing has changed at all 😂 it’s awesome you’ve found someone you don’t need to rush anything with and are in love with!! The only thing marriage changed for me was my last name haha.

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      1. hahaha yess!! That’s amazing honestly, I admire you guys’ relationship! Doesn’t matter what anyone says in the end! Yeah honestly, knowing that we’re the same together whether we’re married or not minus the last name is great, though it is actually more difficult where I’m from to be in a relationship and do certain things and not be married, (I’m Arab), so that’s why marriage is kind of like a passageway to free some concerns and aspects of our relationship.

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  8. This was a lovely post 🙂 It’s nice to hear such a positive view on marriage too- so often people paint it as the END, lol! I’m at 10+ years with my ‘best friend,’ and I still agree with all of it!

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  9. I love this post so much! Very relatable for me, my boyfriend and I got together just after I turned 18 (he was still 17) but we’d been on/off since we were 13/14 (due to distance) I moved in with him 6 months later and ALWAYS got questioned about it, more statements really. “You’re too young to be settling down” “You’re life’s over” “Why do you want to be tied down so young” I’m used to it now though and we’re still together! Prove them all wrong! 🙂 X

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  10. Thank you so much for writing this, seriously. My husband and I got married last summer, we are 23. I had a lot of people tell me I’m too young or that I don’t know what love is “until the rubber hits the road and you have bills to pay and babies to take care of”. It seems like when people see that you’re happy, they have to “enlighten” you and tell you the reality of your relationship, as if they know you. I get pretty discouraged by it at times but this post is a breath of fresh air. Thanks so much for your honesty!

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